Conversations with my bank account

Despicable Me / Universal Picture via imgur

Me: You know what would be a REALLY GOOD IDEA?
Bank account: …what…?
BA: You don’t need it! You just bought one two weeks ago.
BA: No. Think of dinner! You like dinner right?
Me: yes…but….fluffy…
BA: You really need to stop anxiety shopping.

God. I hate it when my bank account makes sense.

A Year In Review


It’s become habit to do this, I used to do it on Facebook but when I started this blog in 2012 I did it here and then I did it again over here last year.

What did you do in 2014 that you’d never done before?
Went on dating sites, met people off of dating sites, helped run two website, committed to my fitness, went to London.

Did anyone close to you give get married, give birth or die?
My dear friend Tali gave birth to her lovely twin boys a little earlier in December.
A coworker lost her sister in terribly tragic circumstances a few months ago.
My neighbour committed suicide in August.

What would you like to have in 2015 that you lacked in 2014?
An apartment with more than one room – my kingdom for a one bedroom flat. I say this every year. ONE YEAR IT WILL BE TRUE.
Also, better balance. Falling over/on my face/backwards/forwards/every direction during yoga is most ungraceful.

What events from 2014 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
Two weeks in August when I went to London for the very first time and stayed with The Lifelong Bestie and her husband. It was the perfect clean break from my life – and there are no better hosts than the two of them.
Waking up to the screams of my neighbour’s mother finding her body in the very early hours of a Sunday morning in August.

What was your biggest achievement of the year?
Going to London all be my wee self. I DIDN’T DIE ON THE PLANE GUYS.

What was your biggest failure/disappointment?
People – they’re not always who you think the are.

What was the best thing you bought?
A ticket to London.

Where did most of your money go?
The costs of keeping my little self alive – and on two weeks in London (can you see a trend here? London made my life this year).

 What did you get really, really, really excited about?

What songs will always remind you of 2014?
Taylor Swift – Blank Space as well as most of 1989
Sam Smith – Leave Your Lover
Alex & Sierra – Bumper Cars

Compared to this time last year, are you: (a) happier or sadder? (b) thinner or fatter? (c) richer or poorer?
Happier, thinner (well, fitter, the scale says I’m heavier, the scale is also a bastard), and about the same.

What do you wish you’d done more of?
Worked out more consistently. I’ve started and stuck to it in a way I never thought that someone as unsporty as I am could. And I – and those who know me – can see the differences. I got guns, bitches. I’ve got a smidgen of what may, may be abs. And I can probably do 5-10km walk without dying.

And no, I still can’t run that distance because my hips are 60 and they hurt.

Also blogged. Man, I can’t commit to this blog.

What do you wish you’d done less of?
Being sad, obsessing over things that were – and are – beyond my control.

How will you spend the festive season?
Spending it with my family, spending it alone, doing yoga, trying to revive this blog (again), reading, meeting old and new friends – it’s time to stand in the sun (Yes, I’m quoting Olivia Pope).

What was your love life like?
Been single for over a year, been on a few dates, but know, really know now, that I’m a catch and it’s worth waiting for someone who, as Frida Kahlo said, will look at me like I am magic. Because I am.

What are some of your favourite things from this year?
London, London, London.
Voice note with the Long Distance Bestie – who needs to text when you can voice note?
Getting into fitness and really appreciating and enjoying my body
My hair finally being all its own colour – and promptly going ombre (some habits never die)
Meeting more and more people from the interwebs (and not having my organs stolen)
Seeing the Lifelong Bestie twice in one year
And countless coffee dates, Skype chats, Whatsapp moments, dinner dates, drinks, misadventures and laughter with my wonderful friends.

What was the best book you read?
I delete the books I read so quickly from my brain. Um, I recently read The Bone Clocks by David Mitchell and really enjoyed that.

What was your greatest musical discovery?
Sam Smith. Ed Sheeran

What did you want and get?
TO GO TO LONDON (yeah, this is pretty much the highlight of my entire year)

What did you want and not get?
The love I wanted, but I got the love I needed – from myself, my family and my chosen family – my best friends.

What was your favourite film of this year?
Jesus, same as what I said about books. Also I don’t see that many films.
But I did weep in The Fault In Our Stars

What did you do on your birthday?
You know….I don’t even remember. I think it was a picnic with Laurie (my almost-birthday-twin) in Kirstenbosch surrounded by many special people.

What one thing that would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Less angst, but that’s my own problem.

 How would you describe your personal fashion concept?
Pretty & comfortable. Or jeans and a vest T. <- that. Still. Jesus. Three plus years and I STILL wear the same things. Add a few skirts and short shorts.

What kept you sane?
Exercise (yoga and HIIT mostly), walks in Constantia, my best friends/soulmates, quiet nights alone in my flat just being with me and being okay with being alone.

Which celebrity/public figure stood out this year?
Now that I no longer work for a celeb-focussed publication, heavens I don’t know. What did celebs even do this year?

What political issue stirred you the most?
2014 elections, EFF/DA causing a scene in parliament

Who did you miss?
Ironically, this time last year I’d reached the point of acceptance of missing two ex-friends (one of whom, I have reconnected with, the other, I know I never will – and it’s ok, after four years, I’m finally over this loss) and now I have someone new who prefers not to enjoy the sparkly awesomeness that is my friendship. I mean, who knows why, because I’m as magestic as a fucking unicorn.

Who was the best new person you met?
I haven’t made any firm new friendships, but I did get to meet many Twitter friends – especially the lovely team from Women24 – and have been so welcomed by my friends’ friends.

The most valuable lesson you’ve learned this year is:
Things are what the are. It is what it is. I’ve finally stopped fighting against one of the very biggest struggles in my personal life and while I’m not ready to share exactly what it is with the wider world, I’ve found a kind of peace in a situation that will never be peaceful. Or okay.

I’ve also learnt that I am amazing. I really am. I’m smart, I’m kind, I’m sometimes funny, I love fiercely (especially when it comes to my three best friends / soul mates), I’m silly, I’m driven, I’m just a bit pretty and I’m pretty bendy now that I’ve committed to yoga. As some would say, I’m a catch.

Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
I’m not sure actually. This year has been such a mixture of learning curves, disappointments, excitement, beautiful moments, heartbreaking hours – there’s no few lines that can sum it up.

But this song comes pretty close.

Image source: Somewhere on the internets

Music Obsession: Sam Smith


Good god I’m obsessed with Sam Smith. From his more upbeat tunes (‘Money On My Mind’ to the almost-swing-ballad ‘Not The Only One’ to the heart-wrenching ‘Leave Your Lover’), this man’s voice! It’s everything. I have a soft spot for sad songs, sad boys and sad eyes. And Sam Smith’s voice is like a sad little kitten who snuggles up to my eardrums. His songs make me picture epic dances – from tangos to lone ballet dancers. And make me dance around my apartment, sing into spoons, and waltz with the invisible man.

Plus, his videos are gorgeous! After the jump are three of my favourites.

Happy Friday, Kittens.

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SARS and a life of forgettable passwords


What I hate most about tax season isn’t trying to figure out what the codes and figures on my IRP5 mean (what does IRP stand for anyway and why, if there are five of them, do I only get one?). It’s trying to figure out what the fuck my password is. Every year, I think I’m being so smart by using whatever the hell it is I use. The following year, I have no clue what is.

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Liebster Award


A while ago the lovely Dale of The Trinketspotter nominated me to do this. Here’s what it’s all about:

“Liebster” is a German word meaning dearest, sweetest, kindest, nicest, beloved, lovely, kind, pleasant, valued, cute, endearing, welcome, sweetheart. The award is much like a chain letter and is used to encourage up and coming bloggers to grow their network.

My nominations for this are Lines of Escape, The Summer Beauty and The Uncooperative Umbrella.

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