So much for guilt blogging, bitches. I’m sure I can flail my arms and sob about deadlines and working public holidays and articles and and and. But whatevs. I didn’t blog. The Boyfriend gave me a beady, steely gaze this morning and was all, ‘So you’re gonna blog today, right?’.
Fine. I’ll blog. I saw this on Tails of a Mermaid but it’s originally from here. I’m 26. So I’ve run out of time to complete this illustrious list. I haven’t really read it before starting. Let’s see if I’ve already failed at life.
1. Make peace with your parents. Whether you finally recognise that they actually have your best interests in mind or you forgive them for being flawed human beings, you can’t happily enter adulthood with that familial brand of resentment.
Yeah, I’ve always been pretty close with my parents. I don’t resent them at all. What can I say? I’m mommy’s girl.
2. Kiss someone you think is out of your league; kiss models and med students and entrepreneurs with part-time lives in Dubai and don’t worry about if they’re going to call you afterward.
Didn’t get around to this one. Woe is me.
3. Minimise your passivity.
Yeah, this definitely needs work. Like Addison once said in Grey’s, ‘There’s a land called Passive Aggressiva, and I am their Queen!’
4. Work a service job to gain some understanding of how tipping works, how to keep your cool around assholes, how a few kind words can change someone’s day.
Worked as a florist for like a year and a half, does that count?
5. Recognise freedom as a 5:30 a.m. trip to the diner with a bunch of strangers you’ve just met.
I don’t like strangers.
6. Try not to beat yourself up over having obtained a ‘useless’ Bachelor’s Degree. Debt is hell, and things didn’t pan out quite like you expected, but you did get to go to college, and having a degree isn’t the worst thing in the world to have. We will figure this mess out, I think, probably; the point is you’re not worth less just because there hasn’t been an immediate pay off for going to school. Be patient, work with what you have, and remember that a lot of us are in this together.
Yay! My degree is going to give my life meaning!
7. If you’re employed in any capacity, open a savings account. You never know when you might be unemployed or in desperate need of getting away for a few days. Even $10 a week is $520 more a year than you would’ve had otherwise.
I’ve been saving since I was 8 years old. Bitches got this one covered!
8. Make a habit of going outside, enjoying the light, relearning your friends, forgetting the internet.
But my friends only live on the internet T_T. Ok, I’m bad at this. I don’t stay on the interwebs at home but I do overindulge in series and playing computer games.
9. Go on a 4-day, brunch-fueled bender.
Sounds awesome. Can I still do this?
10. Start a relationship with your crush by telling them that you want them. Directly. Like, look them in the face and say it to them. Say, I want you. I want to be with you.
11. Learn to say ‘no’ — to yourself. Don’t keep wearing high heels if you hate them; don’t keep smoking if you’re disgusted by the way you smell the morning after; stop wasting entire days on your couch if you’re going to complain about missing the sun.
I need to say no – to others. And stop pressurising myself to do things.
12. Take time to revisit the places that made you who you are: the apartment you grew up in, your middle school, your hometown. These places may or may not be here forever; you definitely won’t be.
I’ve done this on and off. I even convinced a stranger to let me into their house so I could see my childhood home (don’t worry. I had backup).
13. Find a hobby that makes being alone feel lovely and empowering and like something to look forward to.
Do yoga and reading count?
14. Think you know yourself until you meet someone better than you.
I think the people I consider my best friends are better than me, in different ways. That’s why (well kinda) they’re my best friends. Because I can learn things from them and learn to be a better me.
15. Forget who you are, what your priorities are, and how a person should be.
16. Identify your fears and instead of letting them dictate your every move, find and talk to people who have overcome them. Don’t settle for experiencing .000002% of what the world has to offer because you’re afraid of getting on a plane.
My fear of Christmas beetles is legit. Ok?
17. Make a habit of cleaning up and letting go. Just because it fit at one point doesn’t mean you need to keep it forever — whether ‘it’ is your favorite pair of pants or your ex.
Gotten great at the cleaning up – if I don’t do it, no one will! Letting go, not so great at. Some people or things just… have gotten under my skin. It’s step by step, one day it’ll be better.
18. Stop hating yourself.
Hate is a very strong word.
19. Go out and watch that movie, read that book, listen to that band you already lied about watching, reading, listening to.
Books and movies, hell yeah. I need to get back into the band thing.
20. Take advantage of health insurance while you have it.
Company-forced insurance, it’s gonna be a while.
21. Make a habit of telling people how you feel, whether it means writing a gushing fan-girl email to someone whose work you love or telling your boss why you deserve a raise.
The HORROR, actually speaking to people?! WTF. Ok, I always found text easier than speaking, and it’s caused some riffs and troubles with friends past and present. I’ve gotten better, but I’ll get better still.
22. Date someone who says, “I love you” first.
23. Leave the country under the premise of “finding yourself.” This will be unsuccessful. Places do not change people. Instead, do a lot of solo drinking, read a lot of books, have sex in dirty hostels, and come home when you start to miss it.
Really? I’m actually against this pressure to ‘find yourself’, or the idea that finding yourself means you have to leave home, that you have to screw up, get drunk, hook-up.
24. Suck it up and buy a Macbook Pro.
25. Quit that job that’s making you miserable, end the relationship that makes you act like a lunatic, lose the friend whose sole purpose in life is making you feel like you’re perpetually on the verge of vomiting. You’re young, you’re resilient, there are other jobs and relationships and friends if you’re patient and open
Done, did and still needs doing,