I’ve been silent for the last few days/weeks. Not because I have nothing to say, but because I don’t know how to say it anymore. I don’t know how to express what I feel about Anene Booysen and the resulting media storm. I don’t know how to express how I feel about the overpowering patriarchy and misogyny that rules our country, the continent and the world. What do I say when I don’t know how to confront the security guard who calls me ‘sweetie’, the guy on my Twitter Timeline who talks about there being ‘too many hoes and not enough real women’, the girls who post about how not to get raped instead of how not to rape?
I’m tired, angry and frustrated. It’s not about awareness anymore. No one can deny rape happens or claim people ‘don’t know how pervasive it is in South Africa’. What we need now is a radical shift in perspective, view point and mindset. How do we make this happen? Where do we start?
I have no idea.
And so I feel increasingly powerless to make any kind of difference at all.
I feel a lack of hope, not in this country, but in my own power to change…